Biggles do you want to be a hero

Biggles do you want to be a hero

Its the same familiar story. I tried to rebuild my trust but i kept stumbling over information he would leave things lying where i might find them he insisted that the relationship with his ex was just friendship and that i was being paranoid and nasty. I tried to rebuild things he of course expected me to be over it immediately, we tried couple counselling after i threatened to leave but the counsellor wasnt very skilled and of course he was very charming and i ended up coming across as a bitch. He persuaded me to work towards buying a house and moving to the biggles do you want to be a hero for a fresh start. Just as i was beginning to feel better more lies emerged i accidently discovered some things he told me before we married were lies and of course when i confronted him he flew in to a rage. Everyone here knows the pattern, the story varies only in some of the detail. I turned in to a suspicious, paranoid angry woman. I was preoccupied, not concentrating on my kids or my career. I stopped knowing what was normal behaviour in a relationship. He showed no interest in my well-being. The rows were awful, he turned everything in to my fault. Once i crashed and wrote off my car i could have been killed or badly injured he was appalling, didnt even bring me a cup of tea in bed, never mind flowers, when i was recovering. Eventually i got a job in the country which was part of our plan he was supposed to be looking for one but didnt bother, it became obvious he had changed his mind. Well it was obvious to other people. I was under huge pressure commuting huge distances and coping with a new job with no support. I started to drink more than was good for me and put on weight he started to criticize me more and more it dawned on me that he was back with her and i started checking emails, texts etc. This time i decided to employ a private detective so i wouldnt be talked out of things by him sure enough i was right. I confronted him still hoping he would choose me what a mug! But it turned out he had long since been making his arrangements, i had simply hastened things. He was still insisting biggles do you want to be a hero he was just friends with her. Anyway i ended up alone, living a couple of hundred miles from my friends and children because i was following this dream we supposedly had now on my own. Stuck there cos id given up my old job. I was devastated but determined to get the divorce underway and have as little contact as possible. I am proud of the fact that in 2 years i only sent two emotional texts one of which was on my wedding anniversary. He did not biggles do you want to be a hero that i initiated the divorce and did everything to make it difficult, even moving country without a forwarding address which was weird cos he was the one who had ended it.